Work with me one-to-one to achieve:
Coaching with Chloe
Some of the challenges you may be experiencing that I can help you with:
- There’s someone at work or at home you find difficult to deal with
- A key relationship has taken a turn for the worse and you don’t know how to get it back on track
- You don’t feel able to stand up for yourself or say what you really want to say
- You are not getting on with someone in the way you’d like to and it’s costing you
- You are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
I’d be delighted to be your coach if:
- You want to become brilliant at handling difficult people
- You’ve tried lots of ways to solve your issue(s) and they’ve not worked;
- You are willing to explore the role you play in things not working the way you want them to;
- You are committed and passionate about resolving your issues; and
- You want tangible, repeatable processes you can use successfully and independently of our coaching sessions.
I’m not the right coach for you if:
- You are unwilling to approach our coaching with an open mind;
- You want to hold onto your stress, complaints and blame;
- You are unwilling to look for new possibilities; or
- You don’t want view your issues or relationship differently.
Why coach with me?
They are taking up your precious headspace
So there’s a person (or people) in your life whom you find difficult. It’s likely you feel stressed, aggrieved, compromised and as though you’ve tried everything but nothing has worked. I know these feelings and have experienced them many times in life – in fact I lived in this zone for most the first 34 years of my life. And it’s unsurprising we stay stuck, because we are brought up to believe that the source of our difficulties is someone or something outside of us. From a young age when we’re crying, we’re asked “who upset you?” or “did he hurt your feelings?” And it’s commonplace for us to say “you made me feel x, y, z.” So with the best of intentions, our earliest caregivers have led us to believe our feelings lie in someone else’s hands. In any case, why should we do the work on ourselves when it’s clear that they are the problem? After all, you no doubt have a number of people who agree with you.
Why should you do the work when they are the problem?
So you’ve identified them as the problem and you say to yourself “why should I do the work? They are the problem?” I used to think like this too. Then it occurred to me that here I was, suffering, insisting that the other person needed to change in order for me to feel better. And, unless they changed, I would continue to suffer, whilst no doubt complaining about them to anyone who would listen. And all the while, I’d have tried every technique known to man to change them without any success. Until I discovered how to stop suffering, regardless of whether they changed or not. And, in my newfound freedom, I also discovered I had the ability to influence them in a way I never had before. Wow!
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What’s possible when we do the work
This is a photo of me on my wedding day with my Dad. This is the man I refused to speak to for 17 years, until I was well into my thirties. A man whom I hated vociferously and vowed I’d never see again. We have a close and loving relationship to this day. What changed? I did. Or, more precisely, my thinking changed. And it is this that changed my experience of him – and of life. I’ve dedicated more than a decade to sharing the approach that achieved this with over 4,000 people globally whose relationships with their Dads, Mums, bosses, siblings, co-workers, partners, neighbours and, most importantly, themselves, has changed. As a once high-flying, left-brained, cynical banker whose life was riddled with stress, difficulty and conflict (and as a child who’d experienced a considerable amount of trauma), I couldn’t have imagined living a life as enjoyable as it is now. I truly believe that if it can work for me, it can work for anyone. And I can’t recall a single issue in the last decade where this approach hasn’t worked for the person – 100% of people who have experienced it have recommended it after all, so it seems likely!
What’s different about my coaching approach?
I have worked with many, many coaches over the years and I was immensely frustrated with how long it took to see any results, or how my results stopped as soon as I stopped working with them. My coaching is based around two life changing methodologies – my own, award-winning War to Peace® methodology and the Positive Intelligence (mental fitness) work by Professor Shirzad Chamine, with whom I work and have trained. I don’t want you to become reliant on our coaching relationship to have the results you want, I want you to be equipped to continue getting results indefinitely without my help. So I will share with you tangible, repeatable processes that you can use successfully and independently, meaning you become self-sufficient and empowered.
Frequently Asked Questions – click to read
We start with an initial six sessions and my recommendation is that we schedule these weekly so you have strong support embedded in the daily realities of your life.
We’ll meet by Zoom (an online meeting room) or telephone, depending upon your preference. My schedule is flexible to suit different time zones, so this will work no matter where you are located.
If you are self-funding, I charge £150 per hour + VAT. If you are being funded by a not-for-profit or charity I charge £200+VAT. For funding by any other organisation, I charge £500 per hour +VAT.
It’s important to me that no one is excluded from experiencing this work for financial reasons and I maintain two slots on my coaching roster for clients unable to afford these rates. Having benefited from this myself in the past, I will welcome having a conversation with you if you keen to apply this work to your life and are currently experiencing financial difficulty.
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Yes. If you are struggling and need an urgent one-off session, I offer 1.5 hour crisis sessions, which cost £225 +VAT.
No. You can experience transformation even if the other person doesn’t change or engage with what you’re doing.
It’s normal to think “it’s their fault I have this problem!” It often feels that way and it’s important to recognise this if it’s how you’re feeling. And I’m not the right coach for you if are attached to your complaints and blame. I work with people with an open mind who are willing to seek new possibilities and to see their relationships through a new lens.
It’s important to note that this is also not about blaming yourself. This work is not about transferring judgement from them onto you, or passing blame backwards and forwards. My approach is about the end of fault-finding.
I first trained as a professional coach in 2007 with The Co-Active Training Institute (formerly the Coaches Training Institute). I have subsequently continued my professional training as a coach with multiple professional coach training institutes and have also trained as a systemic coach with CRR global using the ORSC (Organisation, Relationship and Systems Coaching) model. I have experienced over 500 hours of one-to-one coaching hours with my clients.
“War to Peace is THE best in its field of conflict resolution.”
“I have attended every possible training course you can imagine in the past 50 years. What you showed me today is the most helpful thing I’ve ever experienced in dealing with conflict.”
“War to Peace shows you to operate with integrity and effectiveness, no matter how other people are behaving.”
“The War to Peace program has seen our people transform, becoming not just more productive and efficient, but better people.”
“War to Peace has changed my life personally, professionally and emotionally.”
“I have no hesitation in recommending Chloe and War to Peace, it’s insightful and useful, both professionally and personally.”
“War to Peace is a progressive and revolutionary conflict management course that will not only transform your conflicts – it will transform your life.“